Wednesday, June 25th, 2008
A good friend of mine called me the other day and mentioned she had just had a wonderful experience this past weekend. She took a walk on the beach by herself. For a good hour, she marveled at the wonderful serenity of being alone for a while. All of sudden, her roles were “suspended” in time; she wasn’t the mother, the teacher, the wife, the friend, etc. “It felt awesome to just be myself for a while!”; she told me.
I pondered on our conversation for a while and thought that I wish more people would do just that; spend more time with their own selves! “Suspend” the roles they all play in life and just enjoy their own company… It’s almost like stopping time!
Ultimately we are all alone in life. We nurture relationships with our family, our partners, our friends, our colleagues and we develop a community. People come and go in and out of our lives and we are left with the lessons and memories – the most precious gifts they can give us. However, the person we must face at the end of the day and at the end of our lives, is ourselves. So, the natural question is: Are you developing a relationship with yourself? Another good one is: Do you feel in peace in your own company?
Taking the time to be alone is crucial to develop a good relationship with our own selves. Enjoying the silence of our own company, or talking to ourselves are great ways to become comfortable in our own skins. What we will find is that deep inside ourselves something incredible is waiting to be known.
Take yourself out on a date this weekend and enjoy it!