Avoid the pain and gain pleasure; is that all that is?
Monday, May 25th, 2009
It has been said that our ultimate concern in life is to avoid pain and to gain pleasure. I respectfully disagree with this affirmation. My opinion is that our main concern is neither to gain pleasure nor to avoid pain but rather to discover a meaning to our lives. How do we find meaning to our lives? Great question…
First of all, our lives are so individualized that their meanings are also unique to each one of us. Second of all, the situations in our lives are constantly changing. What I mean by these two statements is that, to find the meaning of our lives, we need to first look inside ourselves and ask questions that are pertinent to our lives and not to that of others. The answers only fit us, our passions and our mission. The second statement has to do with finding a meaning to our lives by finding a meaning to the present moment we are living. It’s about asking questions then and there, finding out the why – an aim – for our lives. The meaning of life differs from person to person and from moment to moment.
Ultimately, it’s all about understanding the present moment as being your life’s meaning. Taking ownership of every second of our lives, constantly seeking to live a life that is aligned with our passions and with our desire to contribute, simply overflows our lives with meaning. Learning that even our suffering has a meaning, allows us to see that when we accept a challenge, we are presented with an opportunity to go deeper and perhaps discover the true meaning of our lives. A challenge forces us to live in the present, to worry about it, and to even forget about the future or the past in order to focus on its solution.
Explore, ask and look for your own answers! No one else can find them but you.
With energy,
Ana
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how” Nietzsche.
Living from the heart means that you choose a life and a lifestyle that are true for you. You make important decisions because they resonate with your heart and with your own values, and not necessarily with those of others. You trust your own instincts more than the pressures from advertising or the expectations of society, family and friends. Living from the heart is about trusting the quiet voice within you that emerges when you quiet down enough to listen.
Many people make more money than they ever dreamed possible, yet are more financially stressed than ever before. In this current financial crisis we are going through many can relate to this reality. What a vast majority of people do as they earn more money is to continue to spend as much, if not more, than they make. They buy a bigger home, a nicer car, go on more expensive vacations, wear more expensive clothing and so on. They spend, spend and spend some more. Before you insist you will never do this, consider that you probably will – unless you conciously make a vow not to.