Monday, March 8th, 2010
Sometimes I find myself in a conversation with someone who tells me about how difficult it is to get what they want. It seems that someone, somewhere, is magically stopping them from doing things; or worse, from being the best they can be. It is as if a conspiracy plot has been established against them and there is no time, no money, no opportunities, no encouragement, no energy in their lives. Wow, can you feel how stuck this sounds? No wonder nothing is happening!
I realize that there has been a bit of a rearranging of sorts in the world lately, but that has become an excuse for people to become comfortable with the victim mentality. It’s like quick sand; it pulls us in and unless we work to change our own perspective we are quickly drawn to it.
There are two main points I want to make here. The first one is we ALWAYS have a choice on how we perceive the world and what’s happening around us. More often than not, many people fail to realize that they are in the process of making things happen and quickly forget that it takes time to harvest what they have planted. When they don’t see the quick results they go in to resentment mode, then anger and then the victim mentality. I guess we established in the beginning of this post how unattractive this is! The negativity that this state of mind brings will make everything very difficult and the negative self-fulfilling prophecies will begin to take shape. Who’s choice it was to feel that way?
Pause for deep thinking……
Now to the second point. It is crucial to understand that it takes time for the seeds you have planted to grow roots, sprout and bear fruit. Instead of keeping fostering the resentment and the anger, you want to be in touch with your vision and your dream so that you keep yourself aligned with what’s important to you and what gives you energy while you wait for the seeds to bear fruit. Having a clear vision will also keep you away from the negative feelings that tend to creep in once we let our doubts come into the process. When you remind yourself of your vision and keep getting energy from it, things seem to work themselves out and results start coming in quicker than you imagined.
You are responsible for your success and for your actions. You create your future based on how you choose to see what’s happening to your life. A victim will see fault in the process. A survivor will see lessons and opportunities no matter what happens to him/her.
How do you see yourself? A victim or a survivor? Are you blaming the process or are you seeing opportunities?
Feel free to share with me the answers to these questions. I would be happy to send some feedback to you and to ensure that you get the support you need to see things in a different light.