Archive for July, 2010

The Difference Resiliance Makes

Sunday, July 18th, 2010

tug-of-warI am back from my one month vacation in Brazil and Turkey.  It was great to see my family and friends and spend time with them. The reasons why we went to Brazil were all wonderful:  My brother-in-law’s wedding, my mother’s 70th birthday and our regular visit to our company which is always busy and fun.  All of these great moments brought a smile to our face and warmth to our hearts.

However, while we were there, I also learned that my cousin is getting a divorce, my aunt’s brother passed away on a car accident and a good friend of ours with whom we had had lunch the day we left Brazil, just had a heart attack one day after we met him and his wife.

Life is a collection of many pleasant moments and some others that challenge us.  The key to be able to enjoy the good times and to cope with the challenges is resilience.  Webster’s dictionary defines Resilience as; 1 : the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress 2 : an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortunate or change.

The quicker we are able to bounce back from a challenging situation, the clearer we will be able to see solutions and act to change it.  The confidence that we gain from knowing that we can tackle whatever comes gives us the ability to live in the present and not worry about what the future will bring.  We are able to be fully immersed in the magic of the good times without spoiling them with thoughts like “what if this or that happens” or “it’s great but it won’t last”.

And how do we develop this magical quality?  In my humble opinion there is only one way:  By developing our faith in something bigger than ourselves.  Remember when you knew that you had someone to help you, such as your parents or a good friend, whenever you were trying something new?   Remember what it feels like to know that they would be there for you no matter what happened?  That they would be there to help you out if you needed help?  When we know deep in our soul that there is a Higher Power guiding us, a bigger plan, a bigger mission and that its all going to be alright, we feel content and cared for.  It’s not a feeling of conformity; it is a powerful feeling; one that allows us to trust in ourselves even more.  The possibilities become infinite and our soul flies because it knows that it was made to fly and to develop itself.

Faith brings resilience to our lives.  It starts with faith in our dreams, in ourselves and in our abilities, but that is still limiting.  At some point, we realize where this faith comes from and we begin to really see the possibilities.  Then, and only then, resilience truly becomes part of our lives.

With energy,