Energy Coaching

My husband sent me this and I thought it was a nice thing to share with you!  Hope you enjoy it.

With energy,

I know, I know…  The Olympics again? 

I am sorry but I can’t help but talk about it!  I was a highly competitive athlete and during these Olympic months I get the Olympic fever.  Besides, sports are great examples for my life coaching.  That’s where most of my analogies and metaphors come from.  Having said that, get ready for another one!  It has to do with PASSION!  

You can’t help but notice the passion all over an athlete’s life.  How else would they endure countless hours of training?  They know that the hard work will pay off.  This way of thinking gets them thru the hardest of practices; to a point where they even enjoy it.  Why is that?  How is it that challenging your body to the max will give you a sense of pleasure and accomplishment?  It has to do with CLARITY. 

Clarity about what you want will bring out the passion inside of you.  The passion will make you endure and even enjoy the hard work in order to get your dreams and goals realized.  Hard to believe?  Watch the Olympics then.  Emulate the athlete’s spirit and match your actions with your dreams and goals.  Then, let it go!  The process looks like this:

1. The athletes are very clear about what they want:  Get to the Olympics.

2. Then, they put their attention and actions toward making it happen.  They practice hard and focus on the final objective at all times.

3. The final part is the actual performance.  They let go and put all the hard work into action.      

I invite you to inquire about what would bring your passion out in the open.  Nothing is too crazy or impossible.  You have all the resources inside your heart and imagination.  You can go there and think about what brings you joy, happiness, a smile to your face and a good feeling in your heart.  Write it down and look for areas in your life where you can make your passion flourish. 

Every successful athlete, entrepreneur, philanthropist, writer, singer, had only a dream to begin with.  They identified their passion and went for it.  That’s the spirit I want you to emulate!  Get inspired while watching the Games this summer!

With energy (and passion),

Ana

A good friend of mine called me the other day and mentioned she had just had a wonderful experience this past weekend.  She took a walk on the beach by herself.  For a good hour, she marveled at the wonderful serenity of being alone for a while.  All of sudden, her roles were “suspended” in time; she wasn’t the mother, the teacher, the wife, the friend, etc.  “It felt awesome to just be myself for a while!”; she told me.

I pondered on our conversation for a while and thought that I wish more people would do just that; spend more time with their own selves!  “Suspend” the roles they all play in life and just enjoy their own company…  It’s almost like stopping time! 

Ultimately we are all alone in life.  We nurture relationships with our family, our partners, our friends, our colleagues and we develop a community.  People come and go in and out of our lives and we are left with the lessons and memories - the most precious gifts they can give us.  However, the person we must face at the end of the day and at the end of our lives, is ourselves.  So, the natural question is:  Are you developing a relationship with yourself?  Another good one is:  Do you feel in peace in your own company? 

Taking the time to be alone is crucial to develop a good relationship with our own selves. Enjoying the silence of our own company, or talking to ourselves are great ways to become comfortable in our own skins.  What we will find is that deep inside ourselves something incredible is waiting to be known.

Take yourself out on a date this weekend and enjoy it!

With energy,

Ana

One of my clients came to me because she was having trouble understanding her teenage son.  She was familiar with coaching and her goal was to become a Parent-Coach.  Her clarity was amazing and within a few sessions it became clear to her how to achieve her goal.  She gave me permission to discuss some of her findings in my blog.

She realized that as her son changed, she had to change as well.  Most amazingly, she realized that the root of some of the troubles they were having was her unwillingness to change!  Her son was mirroring some of the things she wanted to change about herself and she naturally resisted the change.  Their parent-child relationship had evolved and this realization was major for her to better her relationship with her son.

The major point here is: Get to know yourself first so that you can better understand others.  You will then be able to recognize when the opportunities for your change and growth arrive.  A change in the parent-child relationship, for example, is a huge opportunity for personal growth even if it comes wrapped up in what it seems to be a conflict. 

Once you are able to recognize these opportunities, you will begin to feel grateful to whoever brings them into your life and will not take their reactions in a personal manner.  You will begin to feel gratitude toward them because they allow for you to see the possibility for your own growth!  It is indeed a major shift in our thinking and it is one that can truly change our relationships with the ones we love the most.  I dare say it’s a shift that can change our world for the best!

Have fun shifting!

With energy,

Ana

My husband and I love to sit down and daydream about what we want to do.  Those dreams lead to plans and the plans lead to the reality we create for ourselves.  As we move on toward the reality we are designing for ourselves, we eventually get to the decision-making process.  As I stepped into the role of an observer as well as a participant while in this process, I started to notice a few points that I found worth sharing. 

The process in itself is basically the discussion of an idea, which took a long while, more discussion, a bit of hesitation, lots of brain storming, and, after weeks, we finally arrive at the decision. That’s the short version of almost any decision making process. 

What was so interesting to me though, was to observe our frame of mind going into this process.  When one has points of reference by which one is guided, it becomes a lot easier to make decisions.  Some of the most important ones for us are:

1. We always kept in mind that the biggest commitment we need to make is with ourselves.  The discussion allows us to arrive at a decision that serves both of us without one giving up his/her believes and integrity to do whatever the other wants.  That’s more than compromise.  That’s understanding of oneself and of the other.

2. We cannot make a mistake, we can only make a decision that will be our next best step.  There is no reason to hesitate when we know that we have nothing to lose by trying to follow our dreams.  The concept of losing is merely a thought in the mind of humans.  If one understands this there is no doubt left. 

3. If JOY is a constant feeling whilst we brain-storm our new idea, then we have a winner.  JOY is the best measure of success! 

Dream on and ride your wisdom to victory!

With energy,

Ana